Hey All!! I hope your weekend was wonderful!! Mine was spent in the bed sick since Friday afternoon, yaaaay such fun! I had mentioned that I was going to try something new for my blog, I don't post alot of outfit post since it's not really a fashion blog. It's more of a life style blog.....well I guess, so what better to do than discuss life and happenings of life, right?!?! We will see how this goes, LOL!!!
I know many of you may be into Reality TV and from the ratings one of the favorites is BBW Miami (basketball wives). I haven't watched this season, watched very little last season these kinds of shows are getting out of hand. ANYWHO!! I didn't watch the show last night but I was on a forum and they were talking about it. The conversation that was had between Evelyn and Chad was very interesting and the talk of the forum. From what I understood Chad mentioned that he basically would like to do what he wants (seeing, sleeping with other women), Evelyn really had no problem with it and even mentioned supplying him with protection. If you happen to see the show correct if I'm wrong. However, it sounds like she is willing to have an open relationship/marriage, hmmmmm.
I had a interesting conversation with a guy that I work with recently and it was about yes open relationships. He mentioned that his wife knows that he has girlfriends on the side. He said he just knows to not allow any of what he does outside of his marriage to come home. I asked if he she (his wife) had the same rights, he said if she would like he wouldn't mind, but he doesn't believe she has, stepped out that is. He said he loves his wife would never leave her, but he does what he does and she is fine with it.
Ok I am very traditional in every since of the word when it comes to ALOT of things and monogamist relationships (especially marriage) is one of those things. I guess to each his own, but for me I can't see myself being in a committed relationship (especially marriage) only to allow my mate or we together be able to bring in other people into our relationship intimately. I could say more but I won't, at this time.
So my question to you is what are your thoughts on open marriages?
I know many of you may be into Reality TV and from the ratings one of the favorites is BBW Miami (basketball wives). I haven't watched this season, watched very little last season these kinds of shows are getting out of hand. ANYWHO!! I didn't watch the show last night but I was on a forum and they were talking about it. The conversation that was had between Evelyn and Chad was very interesting and the talk of the forum. From what I understood Chad mentioned that he basically would like to do what he wants (seeing, sleeping with other women), Evelyn really had no problem with it and even mentioned supplying him with protection. If you happen to see the show correct if I'm wrong. However, it sounds like she is willing to have an open relationship/marriage, hmmmmm.
I had a interesting conversation with a guy that I work with recently and it was about yes open relationships. He mentioned that his wife knows that he has girlfriends on the side. He said he just knows to not allow any of what he does outside of his marriage to come home. I asked if he she (his wife) had the same rights, he said if she would like he wouldn't mind, but he doesn't believe she has, stepped out that is. He said he loves his wife would never leave her, but he does what he does and she is fine with it.
Ok I am very traditional in every since of the word when it comes to ALOT of things and monogamist relationships (especially marriage) is one of those things. I guess to each his own, but for me I can't see myself being in a committed relationship (especially marriage) only to allow my mate or we together be able to bring in other people into our relationship intimately. I could say more but I won't, at this time.
So my question to you is what are your thoughts on open marriages?
Honestly, I think a lot of women (with men who are rich or broke as can be) come to terms with their reality if they have chosen to be with a man who cheats. Some keep it more to themselves, while there are others who outwardly know, but choose to keep living that life.
ReplyDeleteMy personal opinion is that marriage is off limits to others. NO CHEATING ALLOWED! If you want to be with other women or men, the choice is simple... Don't get married. You can still love who you're with, and they can love you right back. Again, just don't get married. Forsake all others.
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Ticka you said, if that is the lifestyle you want to lead then don't get married. Some people say that it can work, you have married couples that love it, swing and both are happy. I personally don't believe that it can. At some point one of them will start feeling differently and will want it to stop. Jealously will kick in at some point as well. I also, believe it leaves room for ALOT of doubt. Because you 2 can make the agreement that we can do it, but we have to tell each other, be open and honest about. Or we can't do it unless we do it together. I know doubt will come because you will start to wonder is he or she is sneaking and doing it without you knowing. You also run the risk of your mate really falling for someone else. I mean it happens when people cheat without you knowing all the time, so you think because you know and agree to it that it won't happen?!?!?!
DeleteOn top of that you need to factor in sexually transmitted diseases!! You can say there are condoms, but uhmmm there are more ways than 1 to transmit a disease.
Simply, too much is at risk to me. Plus, you can't truly love me and be happy with me if you want to bring someone else in or step outside of our marriage. Lastly, that vow of marriage is something serious and as you stated it says to FORSAKE ALL OTHERS!!
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ReplyDeleteXO Kayla Monay
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DeleteHmmm...I don't really watch T.V. but the thought of an open marriage doesn't appeal to me. If that's what two people want, whats the point in getting married?
ReplyDeleteExactly!! Leave the open relationship for outside of marriage. Just date and and make sure your partner knows the deal!! Marriage is the ULTIMATE commitment of monogamy.
DeleteI personally couldn't have a open marrige!
ReplyDeleteMe either Tanya!!
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